Dating advice: Surviving the distance

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I’m in a long distance relationship andImisshimalotsoIstarttoflirt with guys on accident. Should I end the relationship and get back together later on?

Flirting is tricky. There is a fine line between being flirty by nature- meaning you flirt without really realizing that you are- and consciously flirting. When you consciously flirt you are aware of your actions, and can consequently experience feelings of guilt if already in a relationship.

In my opinion, if you are feeling guilty about flirting with these other guys, your mind and heart know that in some way it is not right, or fair to your partner, in which case it might be a good idea to evaluate the relationship and think about whether it’s a good time to be in one at this point in your life. This is not to say that it couldn’t work out later in the future, or now if that is what you really want.

Just be sure to follow your gut, and do what’s best for your happiness and health, as well as what’s best for your relationship.

My boyfriend goes to school 3,000 miles away from our campus. We’ve done long distance before, when he was a freshman. But it’s different now that I’m in college too. What advice do you have for long distance relationships?

Distance relationships are tough no matter the miles or the time spent away. They test the strength of the relationship daily, and require, quite possibly, even more effort and maintenance than a

“normal”, close contact relationship. I could blab about how if it’s meant to be it will be, and how true love knows no distance and to a certain extent I do believe that’s true.

But, let’s face it, there are some harsh realities of long distance relationships, and there are certainly bad days and good days. The top thing I have learned and experienced in distance relationships is to not allow your mind blow things out of proportion. Just because he or she didn’t text you back right away, or missed a phone call does not mean he or she is being unfaithful- though your brain may convince you otherwise on those nights you find yourself alone watching Netflix questioning what the heck you’re doing.

Trust, you must trust yourself and have trust in your partner for the relationship to stand a chance no matter the distance. Now that you are both in college will definitely make it more challenging, but if it is something that makes you both happy, you owe it to yourselves to pursue it until it no longer does.

You will both be busy, stressed, and experiencing a multitude of different feelings and experiences, but if you ask me, you’ve got it made. At the end of the day, you have somebody who will always be there for you and is a text, call, or skype away. College is undoubtedly a time to explore and discover yourself but it’s nice to know you’ve got somebody in your corner while you do that discovering. Keep giving effort, send him those thoughtful texts, make time to skype and talk, and when you can, make time to see each other in person. Do what makes you happy, and it will always be worth the wait.

This student does not deem herself a dating expert. This is solely her opinion. 


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